of the mails we get from the top brass informing about others joining in the top clan, almost all men (considering v few women join in as the king of the jungle) are married with wives who are homemakers. now being a homemaker is not being a lesser mortal but having said that, one would in most cases choose to believe that all these very accomplished men have fairly educated wives carving out a niche somewhere......now i don't know why most choose to be at home....
· is it that the finances are taken care of, but is this the only reason one works for and wouldn't working for the sake of working be anyday better when worrying about the bills does not figure ;
· is it being available to attend dos and events and socials at the drop of a hat with there husbands overrules them having any professional engagements ;
· or why is that (apart from financially) a lot of women juggle work and family without the help of any full time help (i don't like the word servants , thankfully the army induces the word 'help' ) whereas a lot of these accomplished men's homemaker wives have drivers and maids and full time or not full time but very good help at hand , and yet they boast about looking after 'the home husband and children' when i would think they'd have more constructive time ;
· and why does everyone speak well of the 'homemaker' who attends all the parties but gossips about the working wife who missed the dinner due to a better commitment ......
exceptions are always there, and that is not the point here.
i don't know, but women , especially accomplished women wasting there life (which is defined as sitting by the window looking at the manicured grass and thinking, oh yeah sitting on that grass is another world, but i have my very comfy couch) makes me quiet......and sad in its way.....
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After reading this article, I feel it is my duty to point out that there is a spelling error in the first line of the last paragraph.
Please note:
"..accomplished women wasting there life.."
vs.
"...accomplished women wasting their life..."
There are many words that sound alike but they mean different things when put into writing.
Their = possessive pronoun. Ex. They got their tickets.
There = that place. Ex. My dog is over there.
grammar apart, I was thinking the same thing when I read those two emails... ("self employed being a euphimism). :)
thank you all.
Hmm.. Interesting perspective but a little far from my reality.
I used to be the girl who would write this same passage that you wrote. I used to be the girl who swore will never be that woman who does not achieve and grow in her profession.
Now I have two little ones. I work fulltime. They are at Day care. I drop them off every morning... Their sad little eyes haunting me the entire day. Guilt looming. For all the time not spent with them. for all the stories not read yet. For all the shortcuts taken for cooking meals, for all the birthday parties not attended.
And then I look at the other mom. She stays at home. And I envy. And I respect because it is NOT easy, to work at home. All the time. Because then it is expected of you to do everything. Because you dont work outside. And nobody notices, or appreciates, what you deliver. There is no promotion, no growth. just work.
So I am scared to take that leap. For I am now used to "Working". For getting praises for delivering. For that glimmer of hope that I will grow, and achieve and earn from my work outside. And can get away with the shortcuts at home. So I learn to live with the guilt. And everyone else whom I love learn to live with me.
Hoping that this is for the better. Hoping that this will make all our future. Hoping that whent hey grow up they will be proud of us both equally. Hoping that when they grow up they too achieve and grow and make a better life for their own and make us proud.
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